What is the Shadow and why is it important?

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Do you experience any of the following?

• Feel stressed, stuck and in emotional turmoil

• Do you lash out or avoid confrontation when you are triggered by another’s response to you

• Do you, on occasion, act in ways that surprise you – ‘out of character’

• Do you surprise yourself with feelings of powerful emotional currents of envy, jealousy or anger and cannot understand it

• You feel judged, held back or insecure

• Do you judge others behaviour and perceive it as shameful, ridiculous or unacceptable?

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This is  not an exhaustive list, but if so, this is the shadow that needs and wants to be brought into the light.  The experiences indicate a denial of parts of your psyche and by suppressing these and other qualities in yourselves, you tend to feel:

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• disintegrated,

• broken and / or

• unfulfilled

 

You are a multidimensional being and life is about discovering all the wonder of yourself through every experience you have.  Self-development and therapy are conscious pathways to discovering all of who you are and integrating it into your conscious life – the good and the bad! 

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Yet as humans we tend to preserve and shine a light on only the perceived good in ourselves so that we may be accepted by others in society.  We also reject, supress or disown those parts of ourselves that we perceive as dysfunctional, shameful or unacceptable by others. 

 

A prime example would be a married man who is bisexual and feels he will be rejected by his family if they knew.  As a result he keeps that side of him hidden until it implodes and affects everyone he was trying to protect including himself.  A person in such a predicament can live a happy and joyful life only when he is able to accept themselves and integrate that part suppressed part he rejected.  By revealing his truth to all, he in turn allows everyone else to live in their truth.

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Shadow work is about identifying the compartmentalised aspects of yourself and integrating it into your psyche - in a healthy way - so that you may become whole and feel complete.

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This intervention is for you if you want more:

• Clarity

• Acceptance of self

• Courage

• Resilience to life’s challenges

• Developed intuition / trust in yourself

• Balanced and harmonious life

• Have a sense of freedom within despite having responsibilities

 

Carl Jung, a 20th-century Swiss psychologist stated the shadow to be the unknown dark side of the personality.  According to Jung, the shadow – in being instinctive and irrational, is prone to psychological projection.  This means that whenever one is triggered negatively by something external to them or reveres a trait in another as something beyond themselves – they are actually identifying traits deep within their unconscious that belong to them (Wikipedia).

 

In having displaced these negative or positive traits outside themselves it becomes unreachable and can create unconscious behaviours such as being materialistic, slandering someone’s good work, putting someone on a pedestal, criticising people and self, becoming aloof, perfectionism etc, towards others who they perceive as living a life of affluence, success, or anything that they desire and haven’t yet achieved.

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The nature of life is that we are born with everything we need to achieve our highest potential from within us.  However, we are not given an operation manual of the Human Being hence majority of the people on this Earth don’t know much about Human Nature and that we have a shadow side – each unique to the individual. 

 

Caroline Myss said that nature also demands that each living creature takes responsibility for it’s self to the best of it’s ability in any moment.  This includes taking responsibility for the shadow.  We mature into wellbeing and reach our higher potentials to the extent that we have transmuted our shadow traits and integrated them into our conscious way of being.

 

Life becomes vibrant as consciousness grows and it is then possible to attain self realisation.

 

‘Unless you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate’.  Carl Jung

 

How do the sessions work?

Once we have met and agreed that shadow work is what you need, sessions will cover:

 

• Going into a greater depth of Human nature and how the shadow operates

• How to identify the shadow within yourself

• How to accept and work with the shadow

• How to dissolve boundaries of preservation that are no longer necessary

• How to integrate the shadow into the conscious in a healthy way

• Expressing your authentic self

 

Benefits of shadow work:

• You mature and develop into your higher potentials

• You learn to open your heart and trust your intuition

• You become more inclusive and connected to all of life

• You see everyone as a teacher and a gift in your life

• Step into your unique calling and help heal the collective unconscious

 

Price Guideline:

1.5 hour session:  £125 - £180  depending on location.

All fees are  payable before the session by bank transfer.  You will receive an  e-mail that contains banking details once a session has been booked.  A confirmation email will be sent to you once payment has been received.

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It is part of my mission to help all those who want to help themselves, so feel free to reach out to see how I can assist you if you find yourself outside these guidelines.

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Contact me to inquire or book a session

These sessions can be done as 1:1 or Groups Workshops